(1 Corinthians 13:4 KJV) Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,In modern language that deals with patience, kindness, jealousy, bragging and arrogance. I still need a lot of growth in these areas.
I am finding that after 40 years of marriage the advanced studies are just as important.
(1 Corinthians 13:5 NAS77) does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,I can act patiently but it is hard not to keep a balance sheet of how many times I have been wronged. It is such simple things as I noticed this morning. When I leave a dish on the counter it is like I have held a Woodstock festival in the kitchen with all the trash involved. When my wife leaves a growing pile of stuff in the sink it is because she is so busy and tired. I have learned not to comment on things like that. I am trying to learn not to keep a record in my soul. Petty but real.
One reason this is so important is that we have a natural tendency to be super sensitive to our pain and callous to the pain we cause. God knows this so He tells us to stop keeping a balance sheet.
Love does not act like an accountant.
homo unius libri
LOL - I feel your pain! My wife is the same way. Worse, she believes in "preventative griping." That's where she tells me not to do something that I've never done, am not currently doing, and never will do. STILL, she feels the need to tell me not to do it. Yes, prayer helps. And yes, I have to fight keeping score, too.
ReplyDeleteKeep in mind that her intuition tells her that you will do it. Think of it as vitamin C and scurvy. One prevents the other.
DeleteGrace and peace.
Keeping score benefits no one. I believe the scorekeeper spends so much time dwelling on past grievances that they miss out on much of the good things in life.
ReplyDeleteTrue but we are so immersed in our pity pots that we think if feels good.
DeleteGrace and peace.